Lessons from Dave

21 February 2014
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My dad lived a quiet life and died a short, quiet death. My father-in-law Dave lived a bright, lively life, and when he died after long years of decline, hundreds of people came to remember the good doctor that had befriended them, healed them, gave them comfort, made them laugh. Everyone has their personal reality-distortion […]

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My dad

10 May 2012
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Seven months after my dad’s pancreatic cancer diagnosis, he is gone, after the kind of week for which the word anguish exists. I flew out to California last Monday with my two girls for a weeklong visit, and he was fine. Chemotherapy had failed him, but he was feeling better without its toxic effects. Suddenly […]

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My friend Faith

13 October 2011
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It’s been a strange, volatile week, starting high, plunging low and ending with the realization that most everything is a high compared to the lows that could be. The week began last Thursday with a rare and exciting treat: lunch with a new friend, the lovely, curious Faith Durand, Managing Editor extraordinaire of my favorite […]

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A fund for Jennie

26 August 2011
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In a vast world, tragedies happen every day, ones that make me want to reach through the television or the newspaper to devastated families that I don’t know. Using the tools of social media, a group of caring bloggers this week has managed to bridge the divide between caring strangers and someone in need. The […]

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On loss: Maria Shriver and Susan Saint James

29 August 2010
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It is a sign of a good life to have much to lose. I’ve been lucky – I have my parents, my husband, my children, a large extended family and many longtime friends. But as I approach midlife, I feel acutely the inevitability of losing people that I love. An abundance of love is a […]

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The end of the beginning

25 August 2010
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Tonight I was companionably cooking dinner with my six year old when she served up one of those statements that makes parents realize that the bright bubble of childhood innocence that they have cherished, marveled at and protected since their baby was born can no longer contain their growing offspring: I wish we didn’t have […]

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